For your bucket list


If you’ve never been to a wedding on the beach, that is something you need to fix. Put it on your bucket list. Crash one if you have to. Stand in the sand, just beyond the white folding chairs, and watch the veil fly in the wind, mingling with the clouds and the sky and the foamy white waves. Listen to the man and woman vow to honor and love one another through sickness and health as their toes curl around the sand, even if they are complete strangers. Just be there and you won’t regret it. Beach weddings are truly magical.


Weddings are transcendent things for me. Each one reminds me of my wedding, no matter how different the venue, how varied the circumstances. They remind me of the vows I made. And they reveal just how much life has passed since the day I stood in a white dress and promised that my hand would always be there when he reached for it. They remind me that those vows you make on that day are so hard to keep. It takes work. So much effort. So much more than love. Somehow, watching a couple start down that road reminds me how worth it all of it is. The work, the effort, how deep you have to reach to keep going and hold on. I come away from a wedding wanting to go back. All the way back these eight and a half years to that day when we started.Β  And then, since you can’t go back, I vow to go forward and remember that we promised. We vowed. And it is worth the effort.

I need more weddings in my life.

And more sunrises like this one.


We made a mommy-daughter road trip to be there. 4 hours there one day and 4 hours back the next. To watch my cousin marry her love.

It was my girl’s first wedding. And she was fascinated. I explained the wedding party to her as the men and women processed in. I called out for her the moment when it was official. They were married. And she stared, her eyes glued to them the whole time. To her, the bride was a princess and the whole event magical. As they danced her first dance, she didn’t miss a step.

That she got to wear a fancy blue dress that made her feel like a princess made it all the more magical. That it was at the beach, that she got to dip her toes in the water, a gigantic added bonus. How she managed to stand in the water, which must have been below freezing, is beyond me. But she loved every second.


Right below ‘attend beach wedding’ on your bucket list, you should add ‘dance in the ocean in your fanciest dress.’ These things, friends, will be the memories that keep you smiling and warm for the rest of your life.



  1. I will add both to my list. I don’t go to many weddings these days, but they do make me happy. They make me remember the beginning of our journey together. I couldn’t have imagined then where we would be almost 20 years later!
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  2. Adding both right now. My sister-in-law has always wanted a beach wedding, so that one might be in my near future. Gorgeous photos!
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  3. Lovely! Although I have no intentions of ever having another wedding, if I did I would want beach wedding. And, I would most definitely dance in the ocean in my fancy dress.
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  4. Not sure I’ve ever been to a beach wedding! Boo! Definitely beachfront, but not beach.
    I’ll be at my sister’s farm wedding on Saturday and Scarlet is so fascinated!!
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  5. Awww isn’t that just beautiful! Makes me miss the beach so much. Wedding by the beach sounds perfect. My fiance and I are actually planning for one so I will add the dancing part into my bucket list πŸ˜€ Love the pictures!
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  6. We actually did witness a wedding on the beach when I was in Jamaica. The couple basically said anybody was welcome to come watch — and it was magical. It’s an amazing setting – so long as those tropical winds, or rain, hold off.
    And I have gone into the water in my fanciest dress once. I actually wasn’t given much choice in the matter, thanks to an over zealous friend — but it was still fun!
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  7. My husband and I married very near the beach, but it was over the water, on a pier.

    I had always wanted a small, nature-based wedding. My husband-to-be was in full agreement as our families were scattered all over the country, and he was a fisherman. (We’re both Navy brats and swimmers, too, so the water was natural to us.) It was just us, the JP, and my parents mainly acting as photographers.

    Our wedding was the best day of our lives (minus every other moment…) and foreshadowed that we do things our way. I wore a simple skirt and blouse and a blanket I picked up in the morning. My hub wore flannel-lined pants. I carried sunflowers in honor of William Blake’s “Ah-Sunflower!” We laughed, we laughed some more, and we created our life just as we sought.

    We now live under a mile from the Pacific Ocean, raising our daughter, and anticipating another in about a month whose name means “shining light.” The winds are fierce here, we crab-clam-and fish often (aka when it’s legal), and we laugh on the water’s edge.

    For us, it’s just home. Tonight we’ll pack a blanket (or three if it’s really cold), take pizza and drinks to “our beach” and photograph the sunset.
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  8. It is on my bucket list to renew my vows on the beach. πŸ˜‰
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  9. Beautiful pics, I must say. They’re totally frameworthy. I’ve never been to a beach wedding, and I would love to go to one. Hands down, the beach is one of my absolute favorite places. If I had to live far from a beach like in the Midwest, it would be hard to take even though I love that area of the country. We didn’t go to the beach often enough this summer, and I really feel a void.

    Having been raised a practicing Catholic, it was pretty odd that I never imagined getting married in a church, even at a young age — I always thought I’d get married outside somewhere. We were married outside on a hot day in May in a gazebo at our wedding reception location. The flowers were blooming, it was sunny, I was not nervous just incredibly happy — so much like I imagined and hoped it would be. I never thought to get married on the beach but would love to do so. Maybe I can convince my husband to renew our vows?!?

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  10. What lovely pictures! πŸ™‚

    I live in Hawaii, so beach weddings is something I see often; albeit, at a distance. Every time I see one, I say a little well-wish/prayer in my mind. Despite what seems like society’s waning enthusiasm for the institution of marriage, I think it is such a beautiful thing. What is better than a commitment to love someone for the rest of their life?

    Thank you for sharing!
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  11. I have never been to a beach wedding, but now I might just have to convince one of my friends to do it. Or just crash one like you suggested! Also have to add this to my bucket list on Pinterest so I can remind myself. (Stopping by from SITS Girls Sharefest)

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