Date morning

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Sometimes on a Sunday morning when the weather is nice, we’ll head out to an open air market in the city. We’ll stop for coffee and pastries at our favorite of the many coffee shops that line the streets and then walk around in our sugar haze, gazing at the fruits and vegetables, jewelry and small wooden toys. Rarely do we come home with anything. It’s more about the outing.

Often, M and I will look longingly at the cafés, the people sipping coffee with a newspaper, passing their early Sunday hours slowly and quietly, and we’ll remember when such a thing fit nicely into our lives too. A lifetime ago. These days, Sunday mornings more often mean a kitchen covered in flour, dire warnings to small people to keep their small fingers away from the waffle iron, and about a half dozen reads of The Little Blue Truck all before the market even opens. And when we do make it out to the  market, we don’t even think about the newspaper. Instead we swallow gulps of coffee while rescuing the syrup bottle from an untimely death on the floor and laughing with our chocolate covered companions.  These days, Sunday mornings are also lovely but sometimes I miss newsprint on my fingers.

That’s sort of the funny thing about parenthood. You enter into it and immediately take on the belief that you must leave your things at the door. Your love of drinking an entire cup of coffee while it’s still hot, reading the newspaper, hearing yourself think. Never again, until the kids have been dropped off in their college dorms, will we enjoy a slow, easy Sunday morning. We believe that to be true and, thus, make no effort to change it. That’s just the way it is in this life of a parent.

But it’s not true.[Tweet “You can be a parent and still enjoy a slow, easy Sunday morning.”]

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a date night flight

Earlier this year, we made a resolution to have more date nights. As in, once per month. We asked our Miss N to be our babysitter and she not only agreed but also has rather consistently checked in each month and helped make sure that we will make it happen. Two people can’t always make sure a date night happens but three? It definitely increases the odds.

So we scheduled and planned. We didn’t force ourselves to get fancy and go someplace big. More often than not we’d end up at our favorite wine bar, the one that doubles as a hipster coffee joint, which was just our speed. But by 9pm, we’d be yawning and trying to figure out how to stay out a little bit longer, feeling like we had to in order to make the whole thing worth it. Date night is incredibly important and something that we need as a couple, now with small children, more than ever. But it wasn’t working for us.

Knowing us as she does, Miss N pointed out that she is just as often free in the morning as she is at night. And date morning was born.

Yesterday morning we sat and lingered over cappuccinos. We strolled around that same open air market. And we capped it all off with mimosas while lazily gazing out across the river. We stayed out from breakfast until after lunch and we soaked in every minute of our date. We talked and not just about the kids. We talked about the things that normally stream through our heads as we are making our way into the day but rarely have the time to share. I’m not swearing off of date night just yet. But I’m loving date morning.

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  1. I talked about this with my hubby this year — that “date” didn’t always have to be at night. or dinner. or movie. we could go to Chapters, get a latte and talk. or even read a book. because I happen to think reading together is a great thing and romantic in it’s own way. Our town also has a market, and that would be a lovely way to spend a morning too!
    I know a couple who vowed not to have children because they could not give up their easy, peaceful weekends. Seriously – as soon as they saw ours one morning, they were “um, no. not happening.” LOL
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  2. This is brilliant. I need Date Mornings in my life. Whenever we have a date night we too are yawning by 9pm; the idea of savoring a cup of coffee and strolling through the farmer’s market sounds absolutely delightful…and I could probably stay awake the whole time! Thanks for the great idea.
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  3. How brilliant! I’m much more me in the morning.
    And it’s easier to have someone watch my kids in the morning than at night when they’re railing against bedtime.
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  4. I love date morning! During the school year, anytime my husband and I were both at home on a Frida (usually once or twice a month), we go out to lunch together. We get to enjoy a meal and talk about whatever without breaking up fights between our kids or taking endless trips to the bathroom. It really is nice and it doesn’t matter at all that it’s not at night – it seems even more relaxed that way.
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  5. Ok, you are absolutely so smart and never thought of date morning, but love the idea. Seriously, we have done the date nights, too, but never make it that late either. Sad but true was never a morning person until I had kids! 😉
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  6. I love it! It doesn’t matter what time of day it is, does it? It’s really just taking the time and enjoying the moment together.
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  7. I LOVE the idea of a date morning! That’s brilliant! I miss those lazy Sunday morning with coffee and the paper. My husband and I are often in the same boat with date night – we are ready to come home at 9pm but futz around trying to find a way to stay out longer and come home at a “respectable” hour.
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  8. Sometimes the best ideas are just one small twist from the usual. Date Morning! I love this idea so much. And I just love your attitude that just because you have children you don’t have to give up yourself for the next 18 years. I agree with that wholeheartedly.
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  9. I think date mornings are great – My bf goes to work at noon now and I get a work from home day once a week so that day I am wfh we have a brunch date or stay in and eat together just enjoying the company – it works great since my son goes to summer camp during the day 🙂 Glad you guys are making the time, it is very important indeed, and glad you have support! Happy Hump Day Tricia! -Iva
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  10. 1. Things have a way of fitting when it comes to life with kids. I took Grace to the pool this weekend. I peeked in on her, and was able to write my Monday post in 90 minutes of pool time. Love it.

    2. I think all of us could use a Miss N as our personal assistant.

    3. I think that you got sleepy during your night date means you’re getting old. Except for that you’re younger than me, so that couldn’t possibly be the case, Tricia. Not at all.
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  11. I love this idea. My only problem is sports seem to consume our weekends…we’re often up early and out the door with both of us heading in different directions with 3 kids. However, now that we have two in high school, the weekend sports schedule is actually getting easier because often they play during the week. So maybe it can happen at some point!
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  12. This sounds like absolute bliss!

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