Be kind in the morning



sunrise in the winter

Mornings are hard.

They are hard for everyone.

Pushing our way out of dreams and slumber. Forcing our heads up and off of our pillows. Reintroducing our feet to the floor. The effort required to squeeze into the daylight and stretch our arms alone is usually an uphill climb.

And then, there is the busy. Bodies to clean, clothes to pull on. Mouths to feed with breakfasts and lunches. Schedules to keep.

Yes, yes, we all try to do the night before. But there is still much to be done in the morning.

If we make it out the door on time, that is success. If we make it out without tears or complication, that’s just icing. And if everyone arrives at their place for the day, ready and raring to go without missing a beat, well that there is the cherry.

Mornings are hard.

Each step along the morning path can set the tone for the day.

A misstep? Well, how do you recover?

A conversation that didn’t flow quite right. Words coming out jumbled and not well thought because the cobwebs in our heads have not yet cleared the path for smooth sailing. We get tangled. And the day just feels… off.

You can set the tone for your day. And his too. And hers too. Your children, your husband. Your mother. The driver next to you on the road. The person standing next to you on the train. The teacher at your child’s school. The friend you just happened to bump into.

Mornings are hard. We’re all pushing out of slumber and clearing the cobwebs.

Don’t have hard conversations in the morning. Speak in soft tones. Use sweet words.

Be kind in the morning. We all need some kindness in the morning.


linking up with Shell.


  1. Mornings really are so hard, aren’t they? They seem way too frantic here.

  2. Oh how true this is! My tone will make or break everyone around me. I like the comparison to the cake! Thanks for sharing, you have given me something to think about.
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  3. Mornings really are tough. I love this message – we do all need kindness in the morning.
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  4. I love this, Tricia. Yes, we’re all trying to get ourselves in gear and start the day on a good note. Why not help each other, right?

    Girl, your words are always such a pleasure.
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  5. Simple yet incredible wise words – and mornings DO set the tone!
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  6. Mornings would be so much easier for me if the kid slept in past 5:30 am! But we make do with what we can and I try to squeeze extra snuggles out of him until 6!
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  7. I really needed to read this today. Our mornings are hard too. My mid-kid has the hardest time. I have been taking some quiet time with him right after he gets dressed. He sits on my lap, facing me and he repeats these phrases:
    I am a good boy.
    I am a child of God.
    I can set a good example for my brother.
    I can treat my sister with love.
    I can be kind to my friends.
    I will obey my teachers.
    I will obey my parents.
    I will have an amazing day today!

    I’m hoping that he will really start to internalize these phrases and have better days. Plus the snuggling is a good way to start the day! 🙂
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  8. So true. I’ve been trying to employ this lately. I find that a nice kiss and hug to my husband both surprises him and makes him seem a bit happier about going about his day.
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  9. we have our mornings down to a science. really. with a 6, almost 5, 3.5, to get up and fed and ready for school and out the door…shoo. plus you know, that 15 month old needs some attention too. it took awhile to get a routine and sometimes there are tears still. but I can attest it all gets better. it really does. I make lunches the night before. I lay out everyone’s outfit the night before. I make sure breakfast is ready to go. Homework is done. Etc. My husband takes the three older ones to school and as soon as everyone is out the door (at 7:30!)…I step back into the quiet, tidy up, get Oscar set up with some toys…and then I sit down with a cup of coffee. I can’t tell you how much I look forward to that moment of sitting down with my coffee 🙂 xoxo.
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  10. I read this post earlier in the week but didn’t take time to comment then. I just want you to know that your title played in my head the rest of the week – “Be Kind in the Morning.” And you know what? I was. Thank you for your wisdom and inspiration!
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