Planned visits


When I first moved to the DC area for college, I felt that I had struck the perfect chord.

A three hour drive from my parents’ house. Three hours from all of my family: aunts, uncles, cousins. Close enough to be able to drive back there if I needed; far enough away that family members wouldn’t just pop over.

But then my cousins and I started having children. And I’d watch as parents and grandparents and aunt and uncles would drop over to visit my cousins and their families; to see the baby, help with the baby, just hang out together. For my cousins’ children, these family members are part of the normal flow of their days and weeks. Visits are a regular thing.

Here, visits are planned. Weekends have to be picked and marked on the calendar weeks in advance. Suitcases have to be packed and arrangements made.

Here, drop-ins are not part of our lives.

And, to be honest, most of the time, I still really like it that way. Close enough to be able to drive if needed; far enough to have our space to ourselves.

But on weekends like this, I really wish I could see some of them more.

Some of them stay for two days and it goes by in a blink.

We don’t plan big outings for them anymore. They’ve all visited enough that they’ve seen the sights and attractions. They come to see us and we’re so happy to see them.

So we go out to lunch. We cook dinner at home. We go to the park. We venture out for ice cream.

We sit at home and we talk and we play. We laugh and we reminisce.

baby and aunt

We basically incorporate them into our daily lives here as if they did drop in every Saturday afternoon.

And in the end, we feel refreshed. Like we just had a mini vacation, doing all of our favorite things with some of our favorite people.

Hope you had a refreshing, mini-vacation kind of weekend.


  1. Popped in from SITS to say hi!
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  2. Such a bittersweet post. I feel like it can be so hard to be far away from family especially with little ones. Glad you got some time together to refresh! 🙂
    thedoseofreality recently posted..Always Be PreparedMy Profile

    • Thank you! I didn’t feel it as much before but yes, now the distance seems so huge sometimes. Bittersweet indeed.

  3. I am fortunate enough to live close to my parents and my brothers. They are such a part of our girls lives but we also make sure not too much. Does that make sense? We know our limits on the good times and the fun and we know when things could start to get crazy because of opinions and such. It took a couple years to get there but I am very happy with the way it is now.
    So happy you had such a great weekend!
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    • That does make sense! And it’s encouraging to hear you figured out how to do that, even if it did take some time. My family has never been good at that without the distance. So lovely though that you all live close and have found that balance!

  4. It is frustrating being away from family like that. Though in my family, a little distance is a good thing, or else I’d find myself the unwilling babysitter to 5 ill-behaved children all the time. However, it is sad that I see my brother and sister but once or twice a year, and that Eve is deprived of cousins to play with and an Aunt and Uncle to spoil her.
    We do, however sometimes make the drive to see them, always us to them, so that we can leave when things get uncomfortable instead of them lingering past their welcome.
    Be grateful for that distance. It can save your sanity. : )
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    • Yes, that’s exactly the kind of double-edged sword we have – it’s good to be far for some reasons but sad for others. But yes indeed, there have been many occasions on which the distance was a sanity-saver!

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